Abusive behavior can happen to anyone regardless of your age, gender identity, economic status, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or education. Regardless of whether you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning or intersex (LGBTQI), you deserve to be in a relationship free from abuse.
As an LGBTQI identified individual, you face the risk of the same types of abuse in your relationship as other individuals do in theirs. However, you may also face a unique set of challenges:
- You may feel ashamed or embarrassed, especially if you are struggling with your sexual orientation or gender identity and your partner may try to use this shame to exert power and control over you.
- You may fear outing yourself or your partner if you tell someone about the abuse.
- You may fear that no one will believe you because of the myth that abuse doesn’t happen in relationships involving LGBTQI individuals.
- You may fear that no one will help you because of their own biases and phobias or that the law does not offer you the same level of protection as other individuals.
- Your local LGBTQI community might be very tight-knit and you fear losing your friends if you tell someone.
First, you should know that the laws and legal options for victims in Connecticut apply to all individuals, including those who identify as LGBTQI.
Second, your local domestic violence agency can and will help. All of our 18 member agencies provide a full spectrum of domestic violence services for LGBTQI victims, survivors and their dependents.
If you believe you are a victim of abuse, please contact your local domestic violence agency by calling the statewide, toll-free domestic violence hotline at (888) 774-2900.
Hartford Gay & Lesbian Health Collective: Empowering individuals of diverse sexual orientations, gender identities and gender expressions to lead healthy lives through the provision of health and support services, education and advocacy.
True Colors: A nonprofit that works with other social service agencies, schools, organizations, and within communities to ensure that the needs of sexual or gender minority youth are both recognized and competently met.
CT TransAdvocacy Coalition: Working to make Connecticut a safe and tolerant place for the trans and gender non-conforming individual through education and social advocacy.
PFLAG: Parents, Families, Friends and Allies United with LGBT People. Local chapters in New Haven/Shoreline, Hartford, Norwalk/Southwestern, Southeastern.
GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project: (formerly the Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project) The Project seeks to assist and support victims and survivors of domestic violence, focusing on the GLBTQ community, to bring about responsive public policy, and to increase access to culturally competent services. You can call their 24-hour hotline at (800) 832-1901.
Lambda Legal: The oldest and largest national legal organization whose mission is to achieve full recognition of civil rights of LGBT people and those with HIV through impact litigation, education and public policy work.